Couples Counselling
Is your relationship missing the spark it once had? Do you find yourself longing for a deeper connection with your partner? Are you stuck in a cycle of conflict, feeling like you’ve lost the closeness you once shared?
When communication breaks down, intimacy fades, and the familiarity you once cherished feels distant, it’s easy to feel lost or disconnected. Betrayal or unresolved issues can fracture trust, leaving emotional wounds that linger and impact your bond.
Understanding your relationship with yourself and your partner is key to finding clarity and rekindling love. But it’s not always easy. Past wounds, unhealthy core beliefs, and ingrained attachment styles can create barriers to connection. Add in the complexities of human nature and the unique dynamics between two people, and relationships can feel overwhelming at times.
Couples therapy offers a pathway forward. Together, we’ll explore the challenges you’re facing, uncover insights into unhealthy patterns, and develop tools to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts, and rebuild trust. Through this process, you can rediscover a deeper understanding of each other and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
Discover how our personalized approach can support your unique journey. We honour diverse sexual, relational, and personal expressions, offering services that are anti-racist, LGBTQ+ inclusive, and welcoming to kink and polyamorous relationships.
Approach
We offer a safe, non judgemental and supportive environment where you and your partner can openly discuss your relationship challenges.
This space allows you to identify and explore your relational patterns, attachment styles, wounds, and emotional responses. By uncovering the root causes of issues and behaviours, you can gain a deeper understanding of each other’s perspectives and develop greater compassion.
We use a client-centred approach, integrating various therapeutic modalities and relational techniques to address your unique needs.
Some of the modalities we use include Talk Therapy, Mindfulness Techniques, Somatic Therapy, the Gottman Method, Parts work, Connection Practices, Authentic Communication, and Conflict Management skills.
Whether you are experiencing communication issues, trust concerns, frequent conflicts, feelings of distance, or seeking to improve your relationship overall, couples counselling can offer clarity and help you enhance emotional intimacy, rebuild trust, improve communication, and strengthen your connection.
Areas of Focus
The areas of specialization include:
Intimacy & Passion
Address sexual challenges and lack of passion in your relationship to deepen intimacy and strengthen emotional connection.
Trust & Betrayal
Navigate issues around broken trust and betrayal, focusing on healing emotional wounds and rebuilding a stronger, more secure relationship.
Life Transitions
Adapt to major life changes such as moving in, having children, empty nesting, or retirement, and learn to adjust with ease during times of transition.
Communication Issues
Enhance your communication skills to create clearer, more effective interactions, helping you feel seen and heard by your partner.
Ending Relationships
Manage the emotional and practical challenges of relationship endings, discovering ways to move forward with greater ease and resilience.
Loneliness & Disconnection
Explore and address feelings of loneliness and disconnection, rebuilding closeness and balancing personal needs with the needs of the relationship.
Conflict Management
Develop strategies to manage and resolve conflicts constructively, creating more understanding and harmony in your relationship.
Open Relationships & Polyamory
Navigate the dynamics of open relationships and polyamory, establishing clear boundaries, communication, and mutual respect.
Attachment Styles
Explore and understand your attachment styles to create more security and improve the dynamics of your relationships.
Benefits of Couples Therapy
Enhancing your relational skills is one of the most valuable gifts you can give yourself. Here are some of the benefits you can experience:
- Improved Communication: Learn effective ways to communicate with your partner.
- Conflict Resolution: Develop strategies for resolving conflicts in a healthy manner.
- Strengthened Emotional Connection: Enhance emotional intimacy and bonding through connection practices.
- Rebuilding Trust: Address issues of trust and infidelity, and work towards rebuilding trust.
- Managing Stress and Anxiety: Discover techniques for managing stress and anxiety within the relationship.
- Enhanced Sexual Intimacy: Address and improve issues related to sexual and physical intimacy.
- Setting Healthy Boundaries: Learn to establish and respect healthy boundaries.
- Increased Relationship Satisfaction: Improve overall satisfaction in the relationship.
- Support During Life Transitions: Receive support during major life changes such as having children, children leaving home, or separations.
- Increased Empathy and Understanding: Foster greater empathy, understanding and compassion towards each other.
- Intentional Uncoupling: Navigate breakups with intention and respect.
- Asking for what you want:Learn to express your needs and desires effectively.
- Reigniting love and connection: Rekindle love and connection when romance has waned.
- Addressing Unhealthy Patterns: Identify and overcome unhealthy relationship patterns, including codependency and childhood wounds.
- Navigating Changing Relationship Styles: Adapt to changes in relationship styles, such as transitioning between monogamy and polyamory and vice versa.
Why work with me?
Throughout my life, I’ve embarked on a rich relational journey, learning from remarkable teachers and gaining valuable wisdom through lived experiences.
Here are some aspects I’ve explored:
Relationship Styles: I’ve delved into diverse ways of connecting with others, from monogamy to polyamory.
Sexual Expression: I’ve spent time in sex-positive communities where sexual expression is honoured, and I’ve also practiced celibacy.
Marriage and Divorce: Committed relationships and the pain of separation have taught me valuable lessons about myself, love, and resilience.
Infidelity and Trust: I’ve learned from both sides of the equation, building trust within myself and with others.
Healing Sexual Shame: Overcoming sexual shame has empowered me to accept and embrace my sexuality.
Navigating Challenging Relationships: Trust issues, jealousy, and communication challenges have been part of my learning process.
Deep Union: Amidst the intricate tapestry of relationships, I’ve experienced profound moments of deep love and connection, both with myself and with others.
While I continue to evolve on this relational journey, I’ve acquired valuable tools and insights that can support others on their paths. I’d be honoured to assist you on your relational journey.
Invest in yourself
Invest in your relationship through the supportive energy of counselling. Sessions are conducted online in the comfort of your home or a private space of your choosing.
COUPLES COUNSELLING
50 min session – $130 + GST
80 min session – $195+ GST
Sliding Scale
There are limited 50 min sessions available on a sliding scale from $80 – $100, based on what you can afford.
PAYMENT OPTIONS
Payment can be made via E-transfer or Cash, and must be paid in full before the start of the session.
To e-transfer send the payment + 5% for GST made out to [email protected]
If you wish to book a free 15 min consultation, indicate that in the message field of the Contact.
FAQ'S
ARE THE SESSIONS ONLINE OR IN PERSON?
Couples sessions are conducted online. Online therapy can be just as beneficial and effective as in-person therapy and gives you the benefit of receiving professional help from the comfort of your own home, or another environment that you have privacy.
HOW DO I START WITH COUPLES COUNSELLING?
If this is your first time coming to couples counselling with me, it is good to start with a free 15 min intake consultation to see if we are a fit to work together. This will give you the opportunity to ask questions about the counselling process, what to expect, who I am as a therapist, and anything else you’re curious about. It also allows me to get to know a bit about you and what brings you to counselling. After this we can book your first session.
HOW OFTEN SHALL WE COME TO COUPLES THERAPY AND LONG WILL IT TAKE?
To maintain momentum and achieve the best results with counseling, it is recommended to have sessions every 1-2 weeks. Over time, as you feel more stable with your issues, you may choose to schedule sessions less frequently.
The number of couples therapy sessions varies because each individual and couple have different needs and challenges in their relationship. According to research, most couples find they need between 6 to 20 sessions to support their relationship and create lasting changes.
ARE THE SESSIONS CONFIDENTIAL?
Whatever we discuss in sessions is considered confidential, with three exceptions to the rule:
- A Counsellor is required by law to report child or vulnerable person abuse.
- If there is Court Subpoena, which requires your files.
- If your life or somebody else’s life is in danger.
Alternatively, i may ask to share your information with other professionals involved in your care, in order to develop the best treatment plan for you. (Note this is not a requirement, so you can say no).
WHAT IS YOUR CANCELLATION POLICY?
Your appointment time is held specifically for you. I have a firm 48-hour cancellation policy. All cancellations or requests to reschedule within less than 48 hours will be charged the full session amount regardless for the reason for cancelling.